The Psychological Impact of COVID-19 (Coronavirus)

Seemingly out of nowhere, we find ourselves in uncertain, unknown and worrying times. An invisible, and unsettling threat has arisen in the form of COVID-19. This has prompted fear, worry and anxiety in many of us, and caused chaos, confusion and disruption to our lives, the communities, cities and world in which we live. There has been an increased sense of needing to survive, and ensuring we have enough provisions. This has been indicated by the empty shelves in supermarkets and the increased demand for ordinary household items as mundane as toilet paper or baked beans.

It is my intention in this article to consider the psychological impact this pandemic has had and may continue to have on us. I will explore how to manage the anxiety and panic generated during this crisis and offer some tips for managing of self-isolation.

Managing Anxiety & Panic

Much like the virus itself, the escalation of anxiety and panic has spread quickly. There are near constant developments, figures, predictions and often alarmist responses, which further escalate our unease. So, in these uncertain and unknown times, how can we manage anxiety and panic and try to hold onto a semblance of normalcy.

Remain In Reality

  • Read official statistics, familiarise yourself with the risk to you personally
  • This is not the apocalypse! Whilst it may feel that way, preparing for the end of the world and stocking up and panic buying may mean others lose out on what they need. There will be more toilet paper!
  • Find internal stability and make conscious attempts at clear and balanced thinking
  • Reassure yourself that surviving COVID-19 is highly likely for most of us

Talk And Share

  • Confide in a friend, partner or family member about your anxious thoughts. You may be surprised they feel similarly to you
  • Finding the humour in these experiences can ease panic and anxiety
  • Share useful information about support available

Try To Shift Your Focus

  • Even a momentary distraction can be a relief
  • If required to self-isolate, use your newfound time at home as an opportunity to learn something new
  • Think about how you might be able to help others during this time

Try Reassuring Yourself

  • It can be helpful to tell yourself that the anxiety and panic you feel is understandable, and like all else, it too shall pass
  • Remain vigilant to hygiene and hand washing and remember by doing this you are doing what is required to reduce the risk of infection

Managing Self-Isolation

The government advice seems to be heading towards advising that we all, where possible, self-isolate. However, humans need relatedness, intimacy, interconnectedness, closeness, communication and interaction. How then are we to manage when we must remove ourselves from these important and meaningful parts of our lives.

Keep Connected & In Contact With Others

During this difficult time, it is important we keep in touch with rest of the world in some form.

  • Contact your friends or colleagues for moral support and remember they will likely be worried too
  • Consider those people you know who might be finding these times particularly difficult and offer them whatever support you feel reasonably able to give, but be aware of needing to look after yourself
  • A telephone call or messaging conversation can be hugely important and can boost our mental health and wellbeing

Use The Internet To Your Advantage

During this crisis, the internet will be filled with hope and support and fear and dread in equal measure. In a time when we need each other more than ever, the internet and online communities can offer meaningful and real forms of support.

  • Develop online links and communities
  • Share ideas or experiences and provide your knowledge and support
  • Post, comment, and share news or updates responsibly to reduce further panic
  • Use trusted news sources
  • Consider the wider impact of spreading or sharing ‘fake news’ during a time when people’s experience of anxiety and fear is already heightened

Talk To Your Family

Keeping up connections with family, even if there is or has been difficulty in these relationships, is crucial.

  • Make your family aware of government guidelines as they develop, particularly those who may have limited access to the internet
  • Be open about your concerns and fears
  • If you have children, then speak to them openly about they might think or have heard about COVID-19. It is crucial to engage in these discussions, but doing so without raising unnecessary alarm or concern

Be Prepared For Increased Worry Or Distress

It is understandable to feel anxious, worried or fearful during this crisis, especially if any reason you already feel vulnerable either physically or due to your mental health.

  • Be open and acknowledge your feelings, no matter if you may feel they are reactionary or invalid
  • Remember that you are not the only one feeling concerned, and that given the circumstances worry is legitimate
  • Be attuned to the idea that the landscape will continue to shift, and it may be that further or more difficult experiences and times lie ahead

Implement Structure

  • Perhaps most important in self-isolation is the keeping together of a daily routine or structure, even if this is one that is new to you.
  • If you are working from home, then try to retain your daily schedule, such as showering, getting up and working by a certain time
  • Allow for time in the day for rest and relaxation

In Closing

COVID-19 has tapped into, at a global level, primitive parts of us focused on the need for individual survival, and the mistrust or worry about what others might transmit to us or take from us when we are vulnerable. Yes, we must take precautions and prevent the spread of infection at a viral level, but we cannot allow the spread of viral anxiety and panic to prevent us from contact with each other. The reality is that the world still exists, and we do not, and cannot, live without each other.

Understanding & Managing Family Issues

Understanding & Managing Family Issues

Family Dynamics

Family life influences and informs us, from the beginning of our lives, to the end. All families go through changes, experience difficulties or ruptures. It is quite normal to experience issues within a family, and also to struggle in managing these.

Family dynamics impact our development and how we see ourselves in later life, influence the relationships we form, how we interact with the world and how we behave and interact with others.

Given the dynamic quality of any family, each one will operate differently, contain its own culture, rules, beliefs and values. The familial culture, rules or experiences we witness stay with us, and can lead us to view how other families operate as strange or difficult to understand.

Indeed, the word family is a single word with many complex and multiple meanings. It holds within it a wide range of feelings, thoughts and ideas. Even where there may been little contact with a family or if contact and connection ceased after a rupture or argument recently or historically, we will have all been influenced by the dynamics we experienced in our early lives.

A variety of factors can impact the relationships we have with members of our families. Indeed, these life stresses and experiences can leave lasting impressions on us. At times, familial stresses can feel immense, and overwhelm a family, making it feel as if there is no way forward.

Roles & Responsibilities

It is not uncommon for issues, difficulties or pain to be absorbed by the family, or lodged in one individual particularly. Often, different family members are assigned roles (whether they choose these or not). For example, the eldest may be known as the strong one, the youngest as the emotional one, a parent as stoic or grandparent as resilient. Whatever role we choose or are assigned, it will have an impact on us, and can often feel difficult to resign or respond to.

What Are Family Issues?

A family is often considered for many as a source of support, care and love; however this is not always the case for us all, and often family life is far from perfect. It may not be that difficulties are constant, but it is common that problems emerge periodically.

You might be a parent or carer worried about your child or be concerned about the impact a separation or divorce might have on you, your family and your children. Perhaps your parents have remarried or found new relationships, and you now have stepsiblings or stepparents that you struggle to ge to know or to find your place in a new familial dynamic. Maybe you are arguing with your siblings or with your parents and find it difficult to communicate with them effectively.

As stated above, all families will have different cultures, therefore their experiences and difficulties will differ. Below is a list of some common family issues. This list is not exhaustive, and is meant as an example only –

  • Financial difficulties arising through debt, bankruptcy or redundancy
  • A change to the familial structure due to death or illness
  • Difficult behaviours with teenagers or older children
  • Feeling of loss when children leave home
  • An unwanted pregnancy or abortion
  • Discovery of an infidelity or affair

It is useful to note that there will be a myriad of issues or experiences causing difficulties, and that it might not always be possible to fix or stop these. However, what is possible, is to find a way to adjust our thinking, feelings or attitudes, and look for solutions or responses that may make these familial strains and pressures easier to manage.

Managing Family Issues

It can be very difficult to manage family issues, particularly so if relationships are strained. It can be helpful to talk about these difficulties with someone you trust and feel comfortable sharing things with, perhaps your partner, close friend or a family member with whom you have a good relationship. Talking about difficulties allows space to identify the challenges faced by your family, and to address and understand these problems, and to consider the next steps you might take.

How Psychotherapy Can Help

There are several talking therapy options available if you are experiencing familial difficulties, including family therapy, couples counselling or individual psychotherapy. The difficulty in resolving issues within families can stem from the closeness, history and familial shared experiences, as well as the lack of impartiality. Psychotherapy offers you the chance to explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences in an impartial and non-judgemental way, and allows for all opinions to be heard and valued, and provides a space to plan, think and negotiate difficulties together.

In Closing

The inevitable love, passion, loyalty or betrayals inherent to family life can have significant and lasting psychological and emotional effects on us. Whether we choose to remain close to our family or feel as though being less connected would be better for us, the relationships we have with our family have the power and influence to shape and inform us in ways that other relationships do not.

As we go through life, we find family, or familial feelings, elsewhere, such as in close friendships, through school or university, and through our work. We build connections, find common ground, and relate to others with meaning and depth.

However we decide to define the word family and what it means for us, it is certain to contain complex feelings, experiences and emotions. The joy, and conversely, the pain of family life, is indeed found within this complexity, and is what makes family life so painful, difficult and upsetting, as well as unique, meaningful and interesting.

 

 

 

 

 

How To Manage Feeling Sad

Feeling Sad – A Universal Experience

Sadness is a natural human emotion, and we will all experience it at different points. Life provides us with continual ups and downs, and our feelings will change and develop as a response to our changing internal landscapes. Indeed, sadness is a universal component of being human, a language spoken by us all, which links us together through the bond of emotional experiences.

Why Do I Feel Such Sadness?

We will all feel sad for different reasons, and the depth or breadth of our sadness will differ depending on our own personal experiences, upbringing and individual psychological make up. There can be a myriad of reasons sadness can be experienced. For example, an argument with a family member or partner, a breakup of a relationship or the loss of a job or other important life changes. There is certainly no guideline for sadness, nor is there a way to predict or plan for it.

It is possible that one thing might be causing you to feel sad, or it might well be a combination of many different factors. Whatever the cause of your sadness or duration, it can feel overwhelming, difficult and in some cases, appear to have no visible end point. Feeling such deep sadness is a crucial aspect of our humanity, and is necessary for growth, change and personal understanding.

Why Do I Feel Sad For No Reason?

Trying to find the origin of our sadness is an important task yet is one that can feel difficult if we cannot reasonably put our finger on where our sadness might have arisen from. Trying to explain a feeling of unknown sadness to another person can be difficult and frustrating. Often this can lead to telling ourselves that the sadness must be unreal, or that a lack of explanation means it isn’t valid. However, this is not true. Sadness does not always have a rational or visible motive and can appear at the most unexpected times. It is not uncommon to find sadness within happiness, as well as the opposite. Sometimes sadness just is, and there are no reasons or identifiable causes, whilst this may be frustrating or tiring, it is an inevitable part of being human.

Sadness Or Depression

It is important here to make the distinction between sadness and depression as two separate experiences. The former, as described above, is a natural human experience occurring at different points for everyone, the latter, is a mental health condition, which can be experienced for prolonged periods of time, sometimes with absolutely debilitating results. In other words, sadness comes and goes, whereas depression can feel constant, dark and oppressive.

Defining the difference between an experience of sadness or depression will differ for us all. Below are some signals to look out for. This list is not exhaustive and is intended as an example only –

  • A period of low mood that lasts for a few weeks
  • Feeling as if you do not gain any enjoyment or pleasure out of life, or the activities you used to value lose their meaning
  • A disturbed sleeping pattern, or not sleeping at all
  • Experiencing thoughts of hurting yourself
  • A lack in concentration on daily activities, such as work or
  • An increase in eating for comfort, or a loss of appetite

How To Manage Feeling Sad

  • Grant yourself the permission to be sad

Sadness is a valid feeling, so allow yourself to experience it.

  • Reach out to a friend, work colleague or family member

They may not be able to take your sadness away but sharing how you feel with another person can be helpful.

  • Find time to do things you enjoy with people who matter to you

This lessens the feelings of isolation often associated with sadness, allowing hope and light to surface.

  • Remember that these feelings are not forever

It can, and most likely will, get better in time.

  • Experience nature or get outdoors

A change of scenery can be a wonderful way to manage feeling sad.

  • Experience your sadness one day at a time, or from moment to moment

Feelings shift, change and develop, and taking things slowly can allow sadness to be managed more easily.

  • Remember that it is totally fine and normal to be sad

It may sound rather obvious, but just remembering this sadness is not rare or unusual is deeply meaningful.

How Psychotherapy Can Help

It can be challenging to ask for support from your friends or family when you are sad. Psychotherapy offers an impartial, non-judgemental and safe environment in which you can explore your sadness, think about where it may have come from, and consider ways you can manage it. Sadness which presents itself is sometimes rooted further back. Psychotherapy offers the opportunity to explore how your past and present experiences may have impacted your feelings of sadness.

How To Manage Generalised Anxiety Disorder

Anxiety is a common difficulty experienced at some point by us all. Anxious feelings often arise in relation to situations or experiences which provoke feelings of unease, worry or fear. Attending a job interview or having an exam for example, can quite easily bring forth feelings of anxiety. In situations such as this, anxiety is completely understandable and normal. However, for some people, it can become a debilitating and exhausting everyday experience, which can begin to control or overtake their lives.

What Is Generalised Anxiety Disorder?

GAD is relatively common condition in the UK, and it is estimated that somewhere in the region of 5% of the population suffer from it. Marginally more women than men are affected, and it is common in people between the ages of 35-59.

What makes generalised anxiety disorder different from normal levels of anxiety is the persistence, regularity and strength of the anxiety. GAD operates in a persistent or long-term capacity, causing its sufferers to endure often crippling and disproportionate responses to the actual worry or risk. In other words, a small event or incident can be capable of provoking huge levels of worry or fear.

Sufferers of GAD will often experience anxiety around a variety of circumstances, opposed to one thing, as those experiencing phobias might. There can be an increase in catastrophizing about everyday situations or experiences. For example, waiting for a partner to arrive home, and thinking they have been involved in an accident instead of the more likely reason, such as being stuck in traffic.

What Causes Generalised Anxiety Disorder?

Whilst the specific causes of GAD are unknown, some research has shown that there can be a few factors involved. While these contributing factors may increase the chances of an individual developing GAD, it is not uncommon for an individual to develop the condition external to these factors. Below I have listed some possible factors. This list is not exhaustive and is used to illustrative purposes.

  • Experiencing a long-term health condition
  • Historic experiences of major stress or trauma such as domestic violence
  • You can be five times more like to develop Gad if a close relative suffered from with GAD
  • Over activity in the parts of the brain associated with behaviour and emotion
  • A history of difficulties with alcohol or drug abuse
  • An imbalance of mood regulating chemicals serotonin and adrenaline

Symptoms Of GAD

It is common for those suffering from GAD to experience both physical and psychological symptoms. These physical symptoms particularly, can cause the sufferer to experience an increased sense of worry, anguish and unease. The severity, frequency or experience of both psychological and physical symptoms of GAD will differ from person to person. For example, one person may experience a broad range of difficulties, whereas another might experience far fewer.

While other anxiety disorders may have a specific trigger, GAD is often unpredictable, making it feel difficult to know when difficult feelings will pass. GAD is a condition with far reaching impacts upon an individual’s life, which can make it difficult to manage relationships, jobs and daily life in general.

Listed below are some psychological and physical symptoms of GAD. These lists are not exhaustive and are intended as guidelines.

Psychological symptoms

  • A feeling of dread
  • Feeling on edge
  • Difficulty in managing everyday tasks such as work
  • Difficulty in concentrating
  • Feeling irritable
  • Finding it hard to maintain relationships
  • Overwhelming or racing thoughts
  • Worrying or intrusive thoughts

Physical symptoms

  • Feeling dizzy or lightheaded
  • Dry mouth, muscle aches, shortness of breath or digestive difficulties
  • Heart palpitations or tension headaches
  • Disturbed sleeping patterns

How To Manage Generalised Anxiety Disorder

GAD is very difficult and exhausting, and can way heavily on the mind. It can feel as though there is little respite from the overwhelming feelings and experiences of anxiety. At its worst, GAD can seriously impact your relationships, life and well-being. However, there are several ways in which you can help to manage the symptoms and experiences of GAD.

Self-help

Talk to someone you trust

Confiding in a close friend, colleague or family member about difficult or worrying experiences or diagnosis of GAD can be a meaningful and important experience, that provides comfort and support in a difficult time.

Try to shift your focus

You may find that trying to shift your focus can distract you, even if momentarily, from anxious thoughts and feelings. Look at a picture, or something which you find interesting or comforting. Really notice the details, the smells or sounds, and concentrate on them. Taking yourself away from the immediate worries and anxieties can be hugely beneficial.

Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy can offer you a confidential space to explore your thoughts, feelings and ideas, and work on ways to manage your GAD or anxiety. Psychotherapy will give you space to explore the roots of your anxieties and consider its components and triggers, and to think about the rules that can govern your GAD. Ultimately, psychotherapy can assist you to develop a more dynamic and engaged way of living, which is not entirely filled with or controlled by anxiety

Moving Forward

Although a diagnosis of GAD can seem impossible to surpass, there are ways of managing, controlling and understanding your anxiety. Although this is of course not an easy road to go down, and will at points involve setbacks and difficulties, there is every chance that you can, with a combination of self-help and or talking therapies, overcome and manage GAD and anxiety. Helping yourself or seeking it from others takes courage, but is the first step toward a life with more balance and peace.

 

Understanding & Managing A Depression Relapse

What Is A Relapse

Depression is not so much something that can be cured, more something for which we have a variety of treatment options. It operates in cycles and phases, which are often unpredictable. It could be likened to a potential shadow, lurking ominously in the background, ready at any moment to descend.

We have all experienced periods of low mood or depression, which no matter their duration, can be difficult to manage, and bring forth painful and upsetting feelings and experiences. These episodes can leave us with an uncomfortable sense of unease, and the fear that the feelings may return. This says much about the link between relapse and anxiety.

Triggers

In its most basic form, a relapse can be understood as a deterioration after a period of increased improvement. This often results in an increase of unhelpful thinking patterns or behaviours and difficulty in managing and taking on day to day activities. In moments of relapse, there are often triggers, a date such as an anniversary, a change of job or ending of relationship for example. All these can provide uncertainty, and lead to an increased sense of fragility in one’s own mental states. These triggers can also be difficult to identify and occur outside of our conscious awareness. By increasing your own understanding of the things that can be detrimental to you during a period of depression, you may limit the risk of a relapse occurring.

Lost Progress

A depression relapse can be incredibly damaging and difficult to tolerate and can lead us to feel as if the progress or changes we made prior to a relapse have been swept away. Regaining our momentum or equilibrium can feel very difficult, and it can be challenging to hold onto any sense of historic achievement.

In other words, there can be a removal of the past and the future, and the sense that only the present remains. Without a sense of knowing or feeling what may happen beyond the current difficult and painful feelings, can be a worrying and difficult experience. This experience speaks to the power of depression, and the hold it can have on us.

Attacks On The Self

Being kinder to ourselves is never the easiest of tasks, and this challenge becomes more difficult during times of depression relapse. The internal persecutory voices we experience can become louder, more frequent and more damaging. These can be thought of as internal attacks on the self, and can be likened to a weakened immune system, more exposed and vulnerable to attack from infection. In our vulnerable moments, we can be more susceptible to latching on to this internal script and becoming entwined within it.

How To Identify A Relapse

A depression relapse will be different for us all and impact us in various ways depending on our personal experiences. However, there are some commonalities to look out for in identifying a relapse. The list below is not exhaustive and is intended to give an outline only.

·        Altered patterns of sleep – having less sleep, waking up in the night or difficulties getting up in the morning or a lack of sleep entirely

·        An increase in stress

·        Finding yourself feeling more on edge, anxious or worried than before

·        An increased persecutory internal voice

·        A lessening of personal care – not showering, eating or looking after yourself

·        A removal from social activities and a sense of needing to hide away

·        Noticeable changes in your usual behaviour – a lack of libido, an increase of insecurity or self-doubt

·        Problems with concentration, keeping focused or being active

How To Manage A Relapse

One of the key aspects to managing a relapse is acknowledging and accepting that it is happening. Being honest with yourself and allowing yourself the chance to name your experiences is of real importance. Whilst it can be painful to accept you might not be doing as well as you would like or feel disappointed or even ashamed you have found yourself once again in a similar position, acceptance offers the chance to begin the process of recovery. This is important because it allows us to offer ourselves kindness during a time when we can be most punishing towards ourselves.

As with identifying a relapse, managing one will also differ depending on our personal experiences. The list below offers some ideas on how we might manage a depression relapse and navigate the difficult feelings you may experience. Again, this list is not exhaustive.

·        Find some time for yourself to do something you enjoy

·        Reach out to a friend, colleague or family member in whatever way is most comfortable for you – depression thrives on silence, but can lessen when spoken about openly

·        Ask for someone to check in on you, to send you a text or give you a quick call – you don’t need someone monitoring your every move, but just having someone ask how you are can be very meaningful

·        Find some inspiration or creativity – re-establish connections to those parts of yourself which bring forth ideas and generate movement of creative thought

·        Try to exercise or get outside into nature – even a simple walk around a local park can be helpful

·        Work hard to re-establish your routine, but don’t beat yourself up if you can’t do everything as well as you could before

·        Take care of your body in the way which is most manageable for you – drinking less alcohol or eating more healthily can be helpful practices to keep in mind

How Psychotherapy Can Help

Psychotherapy offers a space to explore your thoughts, feelings and experiences, and to examine why or how a period of relapse may have occurred. It allows you the chance to verbalise what might be happening internally, and to have your experiences, no matter how small they may feel, to be heard. Most importantly, a relapse does not equate to failure, nor does it mean it is indefinite. As with all things, there is change and fluidity available, and nothing is set in stone.

 

Understanding And Managing Overthinking

In the modern world, we are almost constantly bombarded by visual and audio stimuli from a wide variety of sources, offered choice on a vast scale and provided with the opportunity to access anything at any time.

This energetic, alive and sometimes overwhelming world can make the experience of overthinking more common. In the moments where we find thoughts difficult to tolerate, it can feel as though a relatively innocuous or unimportant event can send us spiralling into a panic, where we simply cannot stop thinking, or more accurately, cannot think clearly.

The stream of thoughts we experience can feel limitless in their growth and diversity, from one thing to another in a matter of seconds. Managing to settle the mind enough to think clearly and accurately can feel very difficult.

This blog aims to look at overthinking and how we might understand and manage it, consider why we may overthink, investigate what gets lost in overthinking and its use as a mechanism of defence, briefly explore the links between anxiety and overthinking, and explore the benefits of psychotherapy.

Why Might We Overthink?

Overthinking can be both alluring and tiring. We may feel we it offers us the chance to solve a problem, think our way out of something difficult or achieve radical change. Whilst this is not untrue, the process can also be exhaustive and difficult to escape.

The reasons behind overthinking will differ for each of us individually and will depend upon our internal availability for certain thought patterns, feelings or ideas. This said, there are certainly some commonalities to be considered. The below list, whilst not exhaustive, provides an idea of some of the reasons for overthinking –

·        Fearing the situation is uncontrollable

The more out of control we consider something to be, the more we might try to think of every conceivable outcome to try and regain some control. However, this can feel difficult to escape from, and can promote an escalation of overthinking.

·        The panic of indecision

Fear of making the wrong choice or decision can be crippling, leading to what can feel like an infinitely tiring and difficult quagmire to negotiate. Struggling to come to a decision, can add to the sense that there is no control over difficult thoughts or feelings.

·        Worrying we may fail

The fear of failure is never far away, and in every outcome, there is inevitably a loss as well as a gain.

·        Catastrophizing

An exaggeration of our worries can often lead to the idea of catastrophe at every corner, adding to the cycle of overthinking.

·        Intellectualizing

Rationally talking through something difficult, provides the opportunity to avoid the difficult feelings involved.

What Gets Lost In Overthinking

The paradox of overthinking is that, rather than lead to actual thought, it prevents it. A swarm of ideas, suggestions or notions overwhelms the capacity for genuine and meaningful thought. This leads to something being lost, not considered or all together dismissed. By providing a million and one suggestions, the salient points get swept away in a tide of confusion.

Overthinking As A Mechanism Of Defence

It is helpful to consider the process of overthinking as an internal mechanism of defence. What do I mean by a mechanism of defence? An unconscious psychological mechanism which operates to reduce anxiety occurring from experiences or stimuli that might be harmful or unacceptable.

Considering the above definition, we can see how an influx of thoughts might be used to distract us from something difficult or ward off or protect against painful thoughts. Overthinking therefore, blocks important or meaningful ideas, but is done under the guise of sheltering us from reaching a realisation that might be difficult.

The Link Between Overthinking And Anxiety

Given what has been written above, it is not difficult to see how one might make the link between anxiety and overthinking. The more thinking we do, the more anxious we might become, the less answers or solutions overthinking provides, the more we may try and think ourselves out of something difficult. This frustrating and unhelpful cycle can feel very unsettling and difficult to avoid. In this way, we can see how anxiety promotes overthinking, adds to the sense of it feeling pervasive and damaging.

Overthinking difficult or upsetting thoughts is an anxious, and simultaneously, almost addictive experience. Choosing to locate and think about those things for which we cannot answer, or find upsetting is rather common. Perhaps it is easier to do this, than to provide ourselves with reassurance or care. This seems to sum up the both the rewarding and difficult aspects of overthinking quite well.

How Psychotherapy Can Help

Feeling as though you are filled with a never-ending stream of thoughts and ideas can be a tiring experience, as can finding a balance between the need for thoughts, feelings and ideas, and possessing clarity, understanding and a sense of feeling settled.

Psychotherapy can offer you the chance to think in depth about your patterns of overthinking and allow you to sift through what feels significant and what is perhaps masking your feelings or experiences.

Psychotherapy provides the chance for equal weight to be given to all ideas, thoughts and feelings, and values that there is meaning and importance to be found in all that is experienced, thought and said. This creates a space where overthinking can be examined, discussed and considered carefully and thoughtfully, allowing you the chance to live a life that feels more real, meaningful and connected.

In Closing

We all have the capacity to overthink, get lost in thoughts and find it difficult to calm our minds. Overthinking is not wholly negative, nor is it something which can necessarily be known in the moment it is happening. It has protective qualities to it, that to some extent are necessary. However, when it occurs to excess, it can be a tiring, difficult and frustrating experience. Learning to identify it when it happens allows us the ability to moderate it, and to learn from it.

The Importance Of Psychotherapy During The Division Of Brexit

This blog aims to explore the themes of division and uncertainty created and cultivated during the process of Brexit and the changing political landscape we currently inhabit. I aim to consider the important role psychotherapy has during these times of division, and how it may help you to process the feelings or experiences related to Brexit.

‘Strexit’

The impact Brexit has had on those living and working within the UK cannot be underestimated. Indeed, this tumultuous process has left an indelible mark upon the UK and its inhabitants. The political pendulum we have all been living with induces a high degree of stress, and the knock on effects of an uncertain political and societal future can be difficult to manage.

The term ‘Strexit’, whilst slightly laden with comedic value, also has a real and difficult meaning, and has been slowly creeping into our wider consciousness over the past few months. The stress of not knowing where we are or where we might end up, is understandably worrying, and the adoption of the term ‘Strexit’, incapsulates well the difficulties inherent in this political breakup, and what it might mean for us at a personal level.

A Landscape Of Division

We live in an increasingly divided and polarised world where powerful ideas and feelings are present irrespective of your political standpoint. This political landscape is increasingly split, and somewhat binary, either left or right leaning. In many ways, this is representative of a current world view, where other countries are separated in a similar fashion.

Brexit has created a genuine and powerful time of uncertainty for many of us living in the UK and abroad. Fears about where, how or when our home might be changed, or whether we will still be welcome are difficult to understand and manage. The global political landscape is also shifting, as are the views and ideas about the future of our planet.

It can be difficult knowing where or how one can fit in this changing landscape, and often it can feel as though there is a need to choose a side in order to find a place to fit in and settle. Yet, surely we cannot think in such binary or concrete terms, surely grey areas exist and require some discussion and thought?

The mixture of deep uncertainty has given way to powerful climate of division, where people are unsure of their position and what the future may hold for them or those they love. It would seem that this division creates and sustains ideas around separation and loss, and perpetuates themes of abandonment and isolation. These ideas further propel a notion of division over unity, when what is required is the opposite.

This, I believe, is where psychotherapy offers a unique and meaningful way of understanding the divisions and splits brought about through Brexit, and how we can negotiate and consider them more carefully.

How Psychotherapy Can Help Navigate A Split Political Landscape

Psychotherapy has an incredibly important role and position in these times of division, confusion, uncertainty and upset. This position, I believe, is one of bringing together disparate, confused and divided thoughts and feelings, both at a personal and societal level, and providing an opportunity to explore, navigate and consider them. Offering the individual the chance to consider not only their experiences, but the wider impact of this political and societal landscape. Psychotherapy offers the chance to hold in mind multiple positions or feelings, without the need to condemn or champion these. To inhabit the ambivalence of the world, to explore how differently we might feel from one day to the next, as we may feel differently about the ever changing political landscape.

These polarised times can leave us feeling split, unsure of positions we once thought were reliable or sustainable, and questioning aspects of our lives, work or relationships. When the outside world feels uncertain, so too can our internal world, and the impact of the political decisions certainly do not occur in a bubble, and we are not immune from policy makers or politicians in Westminster. Psychotherapy is not just about understanding the struggles and difficulties of the individual, but also of the societal, and global difficulties faced by us all.

Psychotherapy offers you a space to –

  • Investigate, consider and be curious about the world we live in
  • Think about the positions and roles we take up during times of uncertainty
  • Consider our ideas about Brexit, and how it makes us feel
  • Examine the changing relationships we have, and the impact Brexit has on them
  • Allow us to experience and consider the unknown, and how uncertainty makes us feel
  • Reflect upon the concepts of home, security and fear at losing these

Division At An Unconscious Level

The unconscious impact Brexit has on us cannot be devalued. How can we, if living in a time of division, experience being settled at an internal level? The division of Brexit and our political climate has important connections with our internal world. The persecutory or dismissive political and societal voices that get communicated to us through the the media, find their way into our internal world. Notions of being pushed aside, or not being good enough can pervade, leading to difficult and often painful realisations about ourselves or who we thought we were, and how we think of ourselves can change.

The Impact Brexit Has On Our Relationships

What then can be thought of regarding the impact Brexit has on our relationships. Perhaps, differing political opinions or views create relational difficulties, or perhaps in the light of Brexit, you or your partner are now uncertain of their future in the UK. What impact might this have on a relationship, and how might it make you feel to consider having to move to a different country, to uproot a life built here? These are uncertain and challenging ideas, worthy of consideration.

Psychotherapy offers you a space to –

  • Reflect on uncertainty in your relationships brought about through our current political landscape
  • Consider how this uncertainty influences your relationships
  • Explore the personal impact the changing political landscape has had on you or your family
  • Unpack how your relationships might have changed during this time
  • Think about the future of your relationships in the changing landscapes we live in

Psychotherapy As A Force For Social Change

Bombarded on all sides by split ideas and political views, finding unity or togetherness can feel impossible. However, I believe, that through gaining an understanding of ourselves and the internal splits and polarised views we hold about ourselves, can provide an important opportunity to understand the world, and more importantly where we fit within it.

Psychotherapy is a force for social change, as well as a vessel for gaining deeper personal understanding of the self. When understood this way, I believe it takes up an important social position, enables difficult topics to be breached, painful experiences to be named, and for a greater sense of clarity to be gained for us all.